Friday, August 3, 2012

Reactions = Reality

"Pause. Resist your knee-jerk reaction and give yourself time and space..."

You are not in control of everything. That's right. Contrary to popular belief, you cannot control everything that goes on around you. The economy will crash, people will say and do things that make you upset, clients will come and go, your business will ebb and flow. And there's not much you can do about it. Or is there?

One way to gain a bit of control back is to understand that things don't happen to you, for you or against you. Things just happen. You are not here to control what happens. Your job is to control how you react to what happens. And the way you react determines how your life unfolds from that point on. Hence, control.

In other words, people and circumstances can show up (or throw up) in your life however they may, but you get to choose how it will affect you…or not.

What is your typical knee-JERK reaction when things don't go your way?

Do some self-observation. Observe your reactions and your results. Be with them. Critique them and examine how they currently define your life and business. Then ask yourself if they are getting you the results you want? If not, here's what you do.

Pause. Resist your knee-jerk reaction and give yourself time and space to allow any negative reactions to flow through you. Then use your coaching skills to ask yourself a question that will help you shift into a more positive mindset from which you can react: What is abundant here? What belief or opinion would serve me better? How do I deserve to feel? Then answer it… and feel the shift.

The moment you begin to take control of your reactions you begin to take control of your reality. Now that's some cool shift!

Jennifer Powers is a coach, speaker and author of the best-selling book Oh, shift! She teaches and inspires people to stand in their power to get what they want. Visit her at Jennifer is also on the faculty of Coach Training Alliance

Reprinted with permission from Coach Training Alliance.

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